The Book of John. Chapter Eleven.
“When Jesus saw her weeping and saw the other people wailing with her, a deep anger welled up within him, and he was deeply troubled” (John 11:33 NLT).
There are probably several interpretations as to why Jesus was so angry at this time.
Perhaps some believe the people were publicly exaggerating their grief in an attempt to cast blame upon Jesus for not healing Lazarus before he had died.
Perhaps some believe that Jesus was so angry because the immense grief of the people revealed their lack of faith in resurrection.
I don’t believe either interpretation is true.
In verse 24, Martha reveals her belief in the resurrection “at the last day.” And yet, “many of the people had come to console Martha and Mary in their loss” (19).
Does it even make sense to grieve when one believes in resurrection and the life ever-lasting? Martha and Mary certainly believed and their grief was great.
We certainly know that Jesus was never arrogant or condescending toward the people. He never acted like He was above everybody else–though The Son of God certainly was!
As the divine in human form, Jesus experienced the world and all its warts through our eyes. And we have been given the chance to see Him closely.
So I believe that after Lazarus’s death, when Jesus was surrounded by all those mourners, He saw the world how we see the world. Because He walked in our footsteps, He knows our pain.
We see the world without having stood before The Presence of God. We see the world without having seen legions of holy angels. We see the world without having watched Jesus ascend to Heaven.
We must live by faith and faith alone. And although Jesus knew that Lazarus would walk out of the grave alive, He still saw the world through our eyes. He may have even asked, “Why…?”
He also knew that the world God had created was not meant to be this way. He knew that His Father had created us innocent, that we might live without so many trails today.
For this reason, I do not think that Jesus was angry at the people for their public display of grief, even though grief is shunned and avoided at all costs in our culture today.
If it were not so, then people would know what to say during times of tragedy. If it were not so, then people would help us through our grief instead of running from it.
But I think, for perhaps the first time, Jesus saw the unfairness of life the same way we see it. He saw the difficulties we face when our loved ones are no longer around.
When we can’t call them anymore because they’re just not there–even though there are times we pick up the phone and dial half a number before realizing…
…She’s gone.
As a member of The Care Team at my church, I have tried to reach out to those who are hurting the most, the people who have lost loved ones suddenly and unexpectedly.
As a member of The Misfits, I listen as those in grief tell their stories time and time again because I know the words are never enough to salve their wounds of their losses.
And I have always tried to teach people that anger is a healthy response to losing someone you love because accepting the grieving process enables us to work our way through it.
More than that, though, I try to remind the survivors that one day, the stone before our eyes will be rolled away. And we will be united with those who have gone before.
Because I believe that Jesus Christ is risen from the dead.
And never is that single act of faith more significant than in life after loss.

Gonna be an awesome day when the stone before our eyes is rolled away and we get to see Jesus face to face.
It does make it easier to know a believer is in a better place but I think the release of emotion is healthy. I spent the last 3 days of my grandfathers life with him 24/7 and was able to handle it pretty well. At his funeral I tried to play and sing “I Can Only Imagine” and totally lost it.
I love Christ showing His “human side”. I need to show more of my “Christ” side.
“And I have always tried to teach people that anger is a healthy response to losing someone you love because accepting the grieving process enables us to work our way through it.”
Is it in the Nordic language that anger and grief are much the same? I feel angry about the great losses in our life. I see the effect of sin and it angers me. Death is certainly the ultimate effect of sin.
“the stone before our eyes will be rolled away”
I love this word picture. To see all who have gone before and, especially, Him in all His glory…I can only imagine.
I have pondered this about Jesus feeling anger. Wondering if HIS anger was because it wasn’t supposed to be this way, and HIS resurrection overcame death. Now because of that we too will overcome it.
Just last night, I was thinking about calling someone who mentored me (in a way), and then realizing that I just can’t…she isn’t here anymore.
I resonate with the need to feel anger after loss, especially when it is sudden and unexpected. When I experienced that with my oldest childs dad, no one talked to me, everyone avoided me, and my family encouraged me to suppress my anger, and it almost totally destroyed me.
I find great comfort in the fact that Jesus looked and death and it angered HIM, and then HE cried. I believe HE cried with me over and over again, and with each person who experiences the loss of another.
I would be so lost with HIM. Thanks Mr NorEaster dude! you spoke some truth to my heart..love you!
I would be so lost without HIM…DOH! braindead today…but still wanted to come and comment…
Nor…
You are so right. Jesus saw the imperfection that was introduced into the world when the apple was bitten. He saw the anguish we were never meant to experience. He heard Martha speak of the Rot of death we were suppose to never experience.
Where Adam separated us from the perfection, Jesus came to restore us to that perfection.
Peace and love brother.
this is SO great. Thank you.
Loved this post… was challenging. Jesus didn’t mean for this world to be like this…. point to ponder…
wow nor. this is…its phenomenally written!
the stone of our eyes being rolled away. that will stick with me forever. so applicable in so many areas of life.
thank you. thank you!
I have saved these thoughts in a word document… someday I will go back and unpack some of these paragraphs in a way that I know they will help me through what is going to be a difficult next few months and years.
I like even numbers…just saying…
checking in to see if you have new thoughts on here…and thinking about you. hope you are having an awesome weekend!
Finally catching up here…
Praise: I have struggled with keeping it together many times myself. There are times the passing of a loved one has been easier for me to accept though, such after an extended illness, as opposed to a sudden and unexpected passing.
Michelle: Yes. The English word “anger” originates in Old Norse and it literally means “to grieve.” I’ve mentioned this several times already in previous Essays so I didn’t really see the point to bringing it up again. Unfortunately, when it comes to anger, most of us are only familiar with the second Nordic definition, which is “to vex.” The key, I think, is to see past the second definition to the first.
Darla: I have found that it helps tremendously after a sudden and unexpected loss to be honest in our expression of grief, no matter how we may feel. When we do express our emotions, we have control over them; they do not control us–but I had to learn to express emotion–especially anger–in a way that was not detrimental. I’m not there yet, but I know God is patient with me. And though I fall and fail, I appreciate His patience. Love you, too!
Carl: I’m really glad you started this study. It gives us a chance to talk about things, together, that we might have missed individually. And, as Darla had pointed out, we have the opportunity to build each other up honestly when others try to tear us down in denial. It certainly helps us to know, too, that Jesus faced the same trials we are facing. His resurrection is a promise of ours. And that is what I cling to when, as my Dad used to say, “the chips are down.”
Hi, Rachel! You’re very welcome.
BajanPoet: Welcome to my blog! Glad I got you thinking. Keep reading. People say their heads explode. Ah ha ha ha!!!
Hi, Tam! Thank you, too, for the compliment.
Michael: Welcome! I don’t know what you will be facing personally in the next few months and years, but if it has to do with losing a loved one, you might want to bookmark this entire blog. I have shared much about my struggles in this area so that I could help others in their grief because I had so little help when I was in grief. It hasn’t always been easy for me to be so honest about it, but, like Romans 8:28 tells us, “in all things God works FOR the good.”
I don’t mind at all that you have saved this post in a Word document–just attribute my words to me if you ever use them, okay? (See the Creative Commons license).
Born: Welcome back from Spam Never-Never Land! As I have already mentioned, the word you are referring to, “anger,” originates from Old Norse and it literally means “to grieve.” My regular readers know this so I honestly didn’t see the point to mentioning it again. Consider Jesus wept before Lazarus’s grave, and it is quite clear that definition applies in this instance. Also, when it comes to grief–which I have endured immensely in the past few years–Satan is pretty much the last thing I want to talk about. The battle is already won.
Darla: I like even numbers! Just sayin’.
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Just want you to know I didn’t miss this. I’m still kind-of absorbing. Usually I always have a comment. This one I’m still chewing on. Thanks!
Hi, Annie!
Still chewing, eh? Well, I hope you don’t choke.
the blogged bibles study doesn’t want any choking…k?
you so crack me up! I was sure my last comment was an even number..but I forgot the editor you are…and there was something in spam…
so again I want to stress that I like even numbers
I like them almost as much as you!
Well, I guess I can live with being second to
even numbers.